10:06:00 Gonna go ahead and record.
10:06:04 Okay. Alright, so thank you again, everyone, for joining us. My name is Stacy Phillips on the project.
10:06:13 Coordinator here at the Institute on Disabilities at Temple University. Families first is bringing you this session this morning and Philip families first is a Philadelphia interagency coordinating council activity, which is funded by Philadelphia's Department of Behavioral Health and Intellectual Disability Services.
10:06:37 As well as L. Learning services. Today I have the great pleasure of introducing reflexologist Marianne Roche for our session on Let Your Loving Hands.
10:06:48 And heart go to work. Marianne has worked in the disabilities field for many years and specifically does reflexology for individuals with disabilities and their caregivers.
10:07:00 I also want to mention as I said I think earlier this session is being recorded. And will live on our Institute on Disabilities website where there's also other recordings of previous.
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10:07:53 Thank you. Stacy and thank you for thank you all for. I'm sure you've had a very busy morning what with the snow.
10:08:03 So thank you, thank you, thank you for taking the time this morning to spend a little time. I'm gonna start out by telling you that if I sound enthusiastic about the things we're going to talk about today.
10:08:20 I am. Stacey and, Denise. And probably Anna and Jen have heard this a hundred times, but I worked in the field of disabilities for 50 years.
10:08:35 I started when my own sister who had a disability was in school and that was back at the time pre.
10:08:44 Free and equal public school education. She went to a private school in Pittsburgh. And as a family, we were very much in meshed in.
10:08:55 All the things that were part and parcel of her life. It was It was really a wonderful opportunity as I think back about it now.
10:09:05 When I graduated from college, I was able to find a job in the field working with adults with disabilities who had never had the opportunity to go to school.
10:09:19 Because right to education just simply wasn't available to them. And so I worked in the field for for a very long time as I said.
10:09:37 People that we worked with didn't laugh very much. They didn't. They often didn't smile very much.
10:09:46 They, they often weren't. Touched in a way that was wholesome and because in America we have this idea that touching is something you have to be careful about.
10:10:05 And at the same time, I began to notice that when good wholesome touch was provided like, you know, a spontaneous hug.
10:10:17 It just did something for many of the people, especially those people who were having a very, very difficult time.
10:10:25 So it seemed to me that there was much more to this than was available on the surface and I started to study the history of touch.
10:10:37 Goes back 5,000 years, it involves a lot of indigenous medicine. Primarily Chinese medicine, about 5,000 years old, Egyptian, African, and so on.
10:10:50 And so many of the techniques that we're going to share today come from. A very long rich, wonderful history about the value of touching and caring and putting your heart out in a way that just makes sense because it does something nice for the person on the receiving end.
10:11:15 But oh, does it do something nice for the person on the giving end? So. Those are some of the things that we're going to talk about.
10:11:25 Today. Some of these things you some of these touch activities are things that you can do to yourself and I certainly hope you will.
10:11:35 Some of them are things that you can do with and for your children. And I certainly hope you will.
10:11:44 I do want to make one disclaimer though since I don't know your children and I don't know what their needs or issues are, I certainly suggest that you pick and choose.
10:11:57 So for instance if you have a child that has hydrocephali. You're obviously gonna want to make very sure that things involving their head and neck and shoulders are done very, very carefully or perhaps not at all.
10:12:17 So you'll probably want to choose an alternative modality that provides aid and comfort. And ease. To them so it just just that little bit of disclaimer so we can talk about the history of Eastern medicine and indigenous medicine, but there are also some very scientific reasons for the value of using our hands in a loving and touching way.
10:12:52 There is a theory that has been promulgated, oh, maybe about 15 years ago, called the Gate Theory of Pain.
10:13:01 And the gate theory of pain goes something like this. There is a point along our spine where pain would typically register.
10:13:11 Not just physical pain, but emotional pain. So I'm saying this because. The importance of thinking about these techniques if somebody is hurting.
10:13:26 A headache or a fever or a sprain or something is wonderful. But in a lot, a lot of cases we're dealing with as families with emotional pain, anxiety, stress.
10:13:41 Fear of some sort. So. And it absolutely works the same way. So the idea when somebody is experiencing a pain, either physical or emotional.
10:13:57 Is to try to modulate that pain so it doesn't get off the charts. It doesn't get.
10:14:05 Out of hand. And as parents, you know when you have somebody who has a meltdown, it's gone from you could modulate it to, you know, we're out of the, we're out of the gate here and we got to do a little something to to kind of get things back and give our children and we're going to talk a little something to to kind of get things back and give our children and we're going to talk about this
10:14:28 some tools that they can use to modulate the things that they might be feeling. Now, there's a variety of different things, different things work for different people.
10:14:39 So what I wanted to again share with you are some that techniques that I used. I work a lot with adults with severe disabilities and increasingly I'm seeing more moms and grandmoms who just.
10:14:56 Sometimes dads and grandpas, but not, not 3. And, and, and actually more and more children, children who have had you know, where school is kind of going bad.
10:15:14 The parents are getting all kinds of stuff about they can't seem to self-soothe or self-modulate.
10:15:24 So with that, I don't typically see children very long. I usually share some ideas with families, but I do have kind of a happy work room and and a heated table.
10:15:37 So it's kind of cuddly and kids do like it. So. So, to get you kind of in the mood, And because I know you pretty much have had a busy morning, we're going to do a little progressive muscle.
10:15:54 Relaxation. So I'm going to ask you to sit comfortably in your chair or on the sofa if that's where you are.
10:16:03 Lay your feet flat on the ground if you can do that. I'd like you to take a deep rack.
10:16:12 Maybe a couple deep breaths. So we're going to talk a little bit more about breath. In just a minute.
10:16:20 I'd like for you to just take a second. The kind of check in with your emotions.
10:16:29 How would you define how your feeling? At this moment. Are you feeling a little frazzled from the morning?
10:16:38 I yet is your monkey mind kind of zips and around there because you're thinking about the things she didn't do, the things you have to do, the things you want to do.
10:16:50 So we're just going to take a little break from that. And we're going to just take a nice deep breath.
10:16:58 Feet on the ground. Checking in with our emotions.
10:17:05 Thank you of being in a quiet place. Maybe your favorite place. Where you won't be disturbed.
10:17:17 Sit somewhere comfortable. Be very comfortable.
10:17:23 And during this exercise, you will tense and release warm
10:17:28 And release various muscle groups. One at a time, paying extra attention to the difference between how it feels.
10:17:38 When muscles are tense and tight. And how it feels when they're loose and relaxed.
10:17:44 Okay. So you're comfortable in your chair. We're going to start with your feet.
10:17:55 Flex them by pulling your toes up toward the sky. Well pressing your heels into the floor.
10:18:04 Toes up, flexed. Heels into the floor.
10:18:11 Notice the tension in your foot muscles. And count to 11, 2. 3 4, 5.
10:18:26 6, 7. 8, 9. 10. Now let go of the tension in your foot muscles.
10:18:37 And let them relax.
10:18:40 Notice the flow of warmth. As your muscles relax.
10:18:50 I'm move your attention up to your cath muscles.
10:18:55 Contract them by lifting the heels of your feet off the floor.
10:19:02 While pressing your toes into the ground.
10:19:07 Feel the tension in your calves. And hold this position. For a count of 11, 2.
10:19:18 3. 4, 5. 6, 7. 8, 9.
10:19:30 10. When you reach the can of 10, let your muscles, your heels drop. And release the tension.
10:19:42 Notice the warmth and flow of relaxation. In your cabs.
10:19:49 Now, move your attention to your knees and thighs. Extend your legs out straight and tense your thigh muscles.
10:20:00 Press your thighs and knees together and squeeze very tightly.
10:20:08 Hold this tension in your upper legs. And continue squeezing. For a count of 11, 2.
10:20:20 3. 4, 5. 6, you're doing it 7. 8, 9.
10:20:32 10. And now exhale and release all the tension in your upper legs.
10:20:40 Feel warmth and relaxation. In your upper thighs.
10:20:47 Okay, now move your attention to your stomach muscles. Tensor abdomen by sucking in.
10:20:56 And clenching it in. Punching those muscles. Squeeze harder. It can just squeeze even harder.
10:21:07 Hold this tension in your stomach. For 10 s. 1, 2. 3, 4.
10:21:17 5, 6. 7, 8. 9, 10. Now release the muscles in your stomach.
10:21:29 And feel the warmth and relaxation spread through your stomach.
10:21:38 Now, move your attention up to your shoulders. Lifting them up to your ears. Hold your shoulders.
10:21:48 Type for a count of 11, 2. Blind them higher. 3, higher still, 4.
10:22:00 5, 6. 7, 8. 9, 10. And release them.
10:22:10 Feeling the relaxation and warmth. In your shoulders as they relax. Get them down. Maybe turn your neck a little bit one way.
10:22:21 And then the other.
10:22:26 Now clench your hands into fists.
10:22:33 And squeeze them tightly for 10 s.
10:22:37 Focus on the sensations in your hands. And notice how tight the muscles are.
10:22:45 Then release the muscles.
10:22:48 And hang limp and loose. Notice how relaxed they feel.
10:22:58 Okay. Send your attention up your neck and into your face. You know that face you make when your kids are have gotten on your very last nerve.
10:23:10 So send your attention up to your neck and face just like that. Tense your facial muscles by clenching your teeth and tensing the muscles in your jaw.
10:23:22 Wrinkling your nose and squeezing your eyes shut.
10:23:27 Raise your eyebrows. And tense the muscles in your forehead. Tense all the muscles in your face.
10:23:37 Hold this position for a count of 11, 2. 3, 4. 5, 6.
10:23:48 7, 8. 9, 10. Then release all the muscles in your face. Let your jaw hang down.
10:24:01 If your jaw is still feeling a little tight. Just take your tongue. Put it up to the roof of your math.
10:24:08 To that down jaw go slack like that. It's a little lifestyle. Okay. And just feel the relaxation.
10:24:20 In your face.
10:24:24 Okay, now do a scan of your whole body.
10:24:28 Feel the relaxation flow. From the top of your head. Down your face. Down your neck.
10:24:37 Down your shoulders. Down your arms into your hands. Into your chest. Into your stomach.
10:24:48 Into your hips. Down your thighs and knees. Down into your cabs and shins.
10:24:57 Past your ankles. And all the way down to your feet.
10:25:03 Notice how heavy, steel, and relaxed your body fills. That the feeling of relaxation Spread to your Hold body.
10:25:16 And you remind yourself. That you can always come back to this state.
10:25:23 So, I will send, Stacy the website where that little relaxation. Body relaxation, sequences and you can have somebody read it to you you can read it to your kids.
10:25:43 Just a kind of a nice thing to do. Okay. So.
10:25:50 As we talked about the whole idea of. The history of wonderful. Healing techniques that have been around for a very long time.
10:26:05 And of course that we know that all of this involves energy and good energy. So the idea is to not be closed up like you were when you were tensing, but to open up.
10:26:18 The cells in your body in such a way that they can take information in and you can be as often as possible your very best self.
10:26:31 So that's the idea of this. It's all about good energy and moving the energy in a in the right direction.
10:26:40 So of course that starts. With techniques for breathing. the 2 things we always have available to us.
10:26:51 Is our breath and laughter. Both of them are things that sometimes we simply need to think about.
10:27:02 Very often, especially in days like today, where you're not sure the kids are gonna have school, they're not gonna have school, and you're thinking a million things.
10:27:10 Thanks tend to close down where we really need to think clearly to have our that energy open. So we're going to start with probably the simplest breathing technique, which is we call this the box breath, 4 by 4 by 4 by 4.
10:27:27 So the way it goes is you breathe in for 4. You hold it for 4.
10:27:36 You release for 4. And you pause for 4. So you're going to breathe in for 4.
10:27:43 You're gonna hold it for 4. You're going to breathe out for 4. And you're gonna hold it for 4.
10:27:52 And we're gonna do that. 3 different times, okay? So again, relax yourself. Feel like you felt a few minutes ago.
10:27:59 Just. Get yourself cozy in the chair. And we're going to start. So breathe in.
10:28:05 2, 3, 4, hold it. 2, 3, 4, breathe out. 2 3 4 pause 2 3, 4, breathe in.
10:28:23 2 3 For all it? 2, 3. 4, breathe out. 2 3 for Oz.
10:28:37 2. 3, 4. One more time, breathe in. 2 3 for hold it.
10:28:47 2 3 4, breathe out. 2, 3. For pause. 2, 3.
10:28:59 4. Okay, pretty simple, right? Okay. And that's something you can do any, any time of the day while you're waiting for the coffee to get finished.
10:29:12 While you're vacuuming or dusting, you can, you know, that little sequence doesn't take much, but what it does is open your energy centers in a way that just kind of keeps you.
10:29:26 Healthy and alive and and a little bit more vibrant. Versus the possibility of of of the tension.
10:29:36 So. Now we're going to do one that kids like. This is when I do, I did on Saturday with 2 youngsters.
10:29:46 Who came and, what I noticed when I would say to them, breathe in and and hold it. They couldn't do it.
10:29:55 They their natural inclination was to breathe very shallow. So this is one that kids can do and can do pretty readily and they they could do.
10:30:07 So put your finger. On one nostril. Breathe in the other nostril.
10:30:15 Switch fingers, cover that nostril and breathe. Out the other nostra.
10:30:25 Breathe in.
10:30:30 Breathe out.
10:30:37 Breathe in.
10:30:43 Read out.
10:30:47 And one more time. Breathe in.
10:30:58 No, it isn't easy to do when you're when you're congested. which is, but.
10:31:06 You still kind of want to try. And what'll happen very often is that you'll release a little phlegm.
10:31:13 You may start to cough. And that's typically pretty okay. But the idea is to kind of make sure that that air You're very often, when your nose is cleaned out, you'll very often also feel it in your head, which is a very good, good place to feel it.
10:31:36 Okay, another one that I do with kids is I ask them to take a deep breath. And I ask them to hold that breath and release out slowly as I'm counting.
10:31:52 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 11, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10.
10:31:55 I do that 5 times. So it goes something like this. You breathe in.
10:32:02 12345678910. We, as you're breathing out 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 11 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 11 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 11 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 you did it Okay.
10:32:17 It's just. Kind of another way to get that those juices flowing by expanding the air in your lungs in your head.
10:32:25 And of course it's going throughout your body. So. So those are 3. There are many, many more.
10:32:30 For those people who have difficulty difficulty sleeping. You can take that 4 by 4 by 4 breath and do it 8 times.
10:32:41 So you breathe in 8 times. You, for a, you hold it for a count of 8, you release for a count of 8 and you pause for a candidate and you pause for a candidate and do that about 4 or 5 times to see if that starts to release the things.
10:32:56 And, and moves you into sleep. Okay. Everybody got that? Okay.
10:33:04 So, now we're going to talk a little bit about things that, So the sooth and smooth.
10:33:14 During COVID, of course, I couldn't see some of the people that I. Really have truly enjoyed seeing, including Anna Pacheco who was on here's son, Joel.
10:33:27 But COVID really closed us down in a lot of ways. And of course, a lot of the families and caregivers were calling saying So would you do things on Zoom or could you give me some techniques to work on with with Kevin so that Kevin is kind of knows that.
10:33:54 We haven't stopped, we're just coming back or simply just to comment down because frankly a lot of the people that I work with just had a terrible terrible time during kovat it was confusing they didn't understand Their whole life was shaken up, patterns that they were used to were dissolved so the idea was, OK, what what can we do that might be fun?
10:34:22 Now, since COVID was something that involved your immune system does involve our immune system. One of the things that was added always into the sequence.
10:34:36 Is what is the Chinese point, the sea of tranquility. So the sea, if you can sort of see.
10:34:45 Feel in the area right between your breast. There's a little bone in there. And right underneath that bone is your thymus.
10:34:54 The thymus has an awful lot to do with the functioning of our immune system. So one of the things that we can do is to just tap on it.
10:35:04 Or circle it. As a way of pumping it up to work. Kind of when it needs to work.
10:35:15 So for colds, for sore throats. For hoarseness for teary eyes.
10:35:25 The thymus is a good one. Another way of doing it is putting for fingers down in there just just kind of tapping it you can do it pretty unobtrusively.
10:35:40 This is the place where, if we're sick, we typically rub baseline, right, or some other med that is intended to make us breathe better.
10:35:51 And there's a reason for that. It's because this, that's where the, that's where the thymus is.
10:35:57 So that's one that kids can do when they're starting to get a cold or feeling. Out of, out of sweats.
10:36:05 And then as Tracy said, Stacey said I'm a reflexologist and A lot of the work that I do is on People Speed.
10:36:19 Also on their hands. There are 504. Points that are available on the feet.
10:36:32 So one of the reasons that I like to work on the feet. To soothe and smooth on the feet is because you get a lot more mileage than you do on the hands, but not everybody likes to have their feet touched.
10:36:44 So you have to, so one has to be absolutely mindful. Of that. So I'm just gonna show you a few if, if you're you or your child like to have your feet worked on.
10:36:56 Let me show you some. Areas that just have a Exponentially beneficial effect. The first is the side of the foot where the big toe is.
10:37:09 In free flexology circles we call that the spine line it's the area in our body that corresponds to our spine.
10:37:20 One of the reasons, of course, it's important is because most of the things in our body are either in front of or behind the spine or on the spine.
10:37:30 So we want to make sure that we're paying extra special benefit to the spine line. Adults we work on it with a certain amount of pressure.
10:37:42 On children typically under 10 it's usually kind of with 2 fingers. Very gently. This has a very soothing quality and you Again, you just get a whole lot of mileage.
10:37:57 On this area. On the hand. The spine line is here.
10:38:05 It's a soothing point. You don't have to have a backache. To work on it.
10:38:12 You just have to have your fingers and your gentility. And your presence in a relaxed place.
10:38:20 So we never do any of these things when weird. Jetery. It's always after we've done some breathing after we're centered after we're ready to give that hand.
10:38:35 And love attention into the area. So the spine line. Goes right down here.
10:38:45 And you know, if you're holding your child's hand or their hand is on the table, you can just very gently pick it up.
10:38:53 And okay. Just go right along here. And before bed. When they're in their pajamas just nice to kind of Go here.
10:39:06 Again, if they're comfortable with having their feet touched.
10:39:11 Another area. That works well is what is the long area which is the ball of your foot.
10:39:22 Okay, and reflexology terms. You know, obviously. What was discovered 5,000 years ago is that there are parts of your body.
10:39:36 In your body. That are also have maps on your feet. That's in fact what we reflexology is.
10:39:43 So this We call the lung area. Okay. And how do you work for lung area on a, on a young child?
10:39:54 It's typically like this. emotionally for children that hyperventilate. Or are kind of feeling sad.
10:40:10 That's the emotion. Associated with the long. This is just a very Nice thing to do on both feet.
10:40:18 Just very gently on the hands. This this box area that Again, we're going up. And up.
10:40:31 And up. Sometimes it's nice to add. A little cream just to kind of smelling cream just to make it just a little nicer.
10:40:43 Okay. And. The other area that sort of prime in this is the big toe.
10:40:52 Okay, so in reflexology terms, there's that little area of your big toe that kind of shuts out there a little bit.
10:41:00 OK, so that's the area that's associated with a hypothalamus, which is command central in your brain.
10:41:08 So for kids that are having Distraction issues. Or Youitability issues. That's always a nice area just to roll on very gently on children.
10:41:25 Everything is super gentle.
10:41:26 And then you. The pituitary, which is located at the top of the foot. So that's.
10:41:34 Right in here with that little fat pad jets out and here.
10:41:40 On your thumb same thing there's a little area there where the fat pad sort of jets at and you just sort of roll around, roll around, roll around very gently, maybe with a little cream.
10:41:55 And then again, typically not more than 10 times. Before you go to another area. But you can make a little sequence out of this.
10:42:08 Not only is reflexology a something that we do on the hands and the feet, but we also do it on the face.
10:42:21 So there are also hundreds of points on the face. And if you're somebody who likes to have your face touched, if you're like, if you're somebody who likes to be cuddled, very often that's A wonderful place to to work.
10:42:36 So. Lot of people are getting colds this time of the year so where are there 2 2 areas that work on the colds well one is right there around the nose Circling.
10:42:49 Right around the nose and you'll kind of feel it if you're sinuses are giving you a rough time again with children.
10:42:57 It's very gently. Done with adults can put a little bit more pressure.
10:43:05 And here, right here where the orb of the eye starts. This is one you want to be very careful about, but that's also a very good sinus point and you'll you'll kind of feel it if somebody is congested because it has a little kind of hardening to it.
10:43:26 So right now I'm struggling with a little dry cough kind of a thing. And in order not to cough to you this morning.
10:43:36 Okay, so Trace, you want to go out, down? You want to go underneath? That's it.
10:43:42 Wonderful. Right there. And just pull up. And circle a little bit.
10:43:48 So if you feel the pressure there, right? Okay. So, 2 loving loving places. On the head.
10:44:01 Also, a lot of adults and children, a lot of adults and children hold a lot of tension in their job.
10:44:10 You know, I've done. You know, people will tell me I want a facial reflexology session.
10:44:19 I'm glad to give it to them when I go to give it to them. Their jawbone is so tight.
10:44:27 That I'm on Mr. Freight their neck will snap that's how That's how tight it is.
10:44:34 And, Typically it's very hard to sleep if your jawbone or get fitful sleep if your job is is tight.
10:44:41 So here are a couple things you can do, right underneath the ear. And, there's a place that's kind of like a little indentation.
10:44:52 Feel it just roll around in there. You'll fill it right underneath. Right behind, I guess, your ear.
10:45:01 Earlobes. And then.
10:45:06 Gently. Pulling your jaw. The way with your thumb underneath. Chantley.
10:45:18 Chant lay. Gently all the way back to where that spot is pulling it away gently.
10:45:28 Gently. Chently. Chently. Good, good.
10:45:37 Kaija, Dobbins are a lot of the reason why children have a lot of problem at the dentist.
10:45:46 I've actually had the experience of working with people while they were in the dental chair.
10:45:53 On their feet, while the dentist is working on their face. But before we go into the dentist office, this is always something that I'd like to.
10:46:04 You know, I'd like to do just to get them to have the feel of a relaxed jaw.
10:46:10 Okay. Another area is around the eyes.
10:46:20 Starting on the inside and out.
10:46:25 Starting on the inside and out. This just feels good. Feels certainly feels good. You're doing it you know it feels good because you're doing it
10:46:37 Okay. And around the ears. So starting with the ears at the lobes and just sort of
10:46:48 Moving up the ears.
10:46:53 There is also a whole protocol on ear reflexology. I find that a lot of people like to have their ears touched.
10:47:06 So we do it. And but by working on the outer rim of the ear lobe, That's the spine line.
10:47:17 So that corresponds to the same areas that are.
10:47:22 That we talked about when we were doing the spine line. And then when you're finished, just taking those ear loops very gently.
10:47:31 And just stretching the map. Kind of at right angles. Stretching them out a little bit.
10:47:36 Just a kind of release any tension in your neck and in your ears.
10:47:48 Okay. How are we doing so far? Okay. Not overwhelming you too much.
10:47:55 Okay, good. So 2 more areas on the head, some of which you know I'm sure the temples when you have a headache.
10:48:02 That's an obvious area where. Yeah, kind of roll around gently on children a little harder with Adults, K, teens.
10:48:14 And a little bit more. But it's a good idea to do. When you don't have a headache.
10:48:20 Cause it. Releases the jaw the parietal part of the brain the upper areas and in this area, so the, the temples have.
10:48:32 You know that this is something to sort of get into practice doing and it's something you can do when you're doing other things.
10:48:41 It doesn't. Have to be just that.
10:48:46 And, the priorital loop, so the idea is to take your finger pads, never your nails, always your finger pads.
10:48:54 And just go up and down above. Where? You have. Some tension.
10:49:07 I just feels. Good feels. Good. Pads against your hair so you're not pulling any hair and just going up and down.
10:49:20 And up and down.
10:49:24 Okay. So have all that.
10:49:33 I'm just also gonna show you a couple more. Areas that we kind of refer to as trigger points.
10:49:45 For like toe for like leg cramps. Which are common course you know that often cramps are a result of not having sufficient vitamin D.
10:50:03 Or not having sufficient potassium, so vitamin D and and. Being at the sun and taking vitamin D and eating bananas and oranges is a very good thing to do, but you already know that.
10:50:16 But if you were still having cramps, there's an area between your toes. We kind of if you kind of go down between your big toe and the second toe all the way down.
10:50:28 You'll kind of if you have access to your feet you can you can do it. You'll find that there's like an area where your finger makes a natural stop.
10:50:36 It's like with the bone kind of goes into a V. This is an area that will stop cramps typically.
10:50:45 Even if it's like a Charlie horse in the back of your calf. And it just feels good.
10:50:55 All these things are intended to soothe and smooth. Just to just to make you feel good because you deserve to feel good and we want you to feel good.
10:51:08 Okay, and one more. And your elbow, so I'm going to show you here.
10:51:17 So when you put your hand over your shoulder. There's an area that's an indentation between the top of your shoulder and your forearm.
10:51:25 Okay, right, right in there. Hey, that's a trigger point. It's kind of a V there.
10:51:32 This is actually a colon point. Good for a constipation. This is what we call a trigger point because it's on the, intestinal.
10:51:45 Line and it's just if, if, if you're rolling around here, probably and it feels a little sensitive you probably are a little constipated but that's just kind of a.
10:51:58 That's kind of a simple and unobtrusive one. If you're feeling like you know, you need to kind of relieve yourself, but you can't really rub your.
10:52:08 It's a lower underneath your stomach because somebody might notice it's pretty unintrusive to just kind of roll around in this area.
10:52:17 So see if it works. It works typically, it will work on children and adults as well. Okay.
10:52:27 Okay, so. Got all that. And.
10:52:39 Now like to kind of go into a couple things that kids can do themselves. Things that you can show them that are easy breezy and things that children can do themselves.
10:52:54 So I mentioned on Saturday that I had 2 young men. Okay. One of whom is a child with autism and has a lot of extraneous activity going on a lot of the time and as you can imagine when his grandmother would say to him, you know, Bob sits still, that was the last thing that he was going to do.
10:53:19 And in fact, very often that You know, come on, I told you to sit still. Sit down.
10:53:25 You're in somebody else's house. Usually that kind of interaction tends to rev things up, especially when somebody's in a place that they're not familiar with.
10:53:38 So, what I had him do was just kind of come over and sit with me and put his hand on his head and put My other hand on the back of his neck.
10:53:53 And had him. Squeeze a little bit when he did it. So I just demonstrated for him and then I had him do it.
10:54:03 And within seconds, He was just as. Together as he could be such that it was easy for me then to have him in the in the work room get him on the table nice and cozy and and to work on him so I never underestimate this Quick little something that you can do.
10:54:25 First of all, because it feels good, if you lay back it feels even better. And it's just sort of a nice way of kind of.
10:54:34 Holding the energy in a way that is supportive and safe. Okay.
10:54:46 There is another practice, that, I also use with, that, I also use with children a lot.
10:54:56 It's a other practice, that, I also use with, children a lot.
10:55:01 It's, thousands of Ajjinji is based on the premise that the end of the meridians that the Meridians that we've already talked about the.
10:55:10 This is a point on the meridian. These are all points on the meridians, that, that's what reflexology is.
10:55:20 We reflexology assumes that the endpoints of the meridians as the Chinese developed their medical system and others that at the end points of those Meridians are your face, your ears.
10:55:32 Your hands and your feet, those places where you can see and quickly access and work with. Okay, so the the the gin chin jitsu kind of takes that slightly further.
10:55:48 And, and this is a good, has been a good one for children.
10:55:58 So the idea is to identify what issue the child is experiencing. So let's say you're identifying that the child is experiencing worry.
10:56:14 Okay. The idea would be to take the finger that is associated with worry and give it some general attention.
10:56:26 Now I usually use these little bath puppets because for kids it just, you know, it just is just a little bit more fun, but I'll say, Okay, I appreciate that you're worried.
10:56:43 And we're going to try to see if together we can take care of that. So I want you what I want you to, I'm going to put this.
10:56:47 Little dog on your finger and I'm gonna put my hand around your thing and we're gonna Think about the things that are the alternative to worry.
10:56:59 What's the opposite of worrying? How do you feel when you're not worried? Sometimes it takes them a few minutes to identify that and even if they can't speak.
10:57:11 It's okay. It's, it's a matter of saying, okay, we're going to take care of saying, okay, we're going to take care of the word.
10:57:16 We're just gonna hold this finger and we're just gonna hold this finger and we're just gonna make nice on this finger.
10:57:20 You have a nice finger. Love your finger. Look how happy the dog is on your finger. It just put him right there.
10:57:31 Okay. Play with him. We can make up a story about the finger. We can make up the story about how I feel when I'm not worrying about how I feel when I'm not worrying.
10:57:43 Okay, so in gin chin jetsu, the thumb is the, okay, so in gin chin jitsu the thumb is the is the is the finger of worry.
10:57:50 Okay, suppose the child is is feeling fearful. Okay. Fireworks allowed, boom.
10:58:06 Somebody comes home angry and is yelling. Okay, so the index finger. Is the finger of fear.
10:58:17 And we're gonna put the Papadona. Finger we're gonna hold it
10:58:25 Say, okay, so if you weren't feeling fearful today. How would you be feeling? Smiling, right? Okay, what other things?
10:58:38 And you kind of just make a little story out of it so that people get used to thinking about when this happens I can go there.
10:58:47 When this happens, I can go there. So worry, fear.
10:58:57 I'm sure you're gonna recognize this one. The middle finger, anger.
10:59:04 Okay, same thing. Just kinda making a little, don't want you to be angry. It's not good for your for yourself to be angry if you're if you get angry you'll start to cry if you get angry you'll get a headache.
10:59:26 We don't want that to happen. What do we want to happen? She's so if again if the child can't speak you kind of fill in the blanks for them.
10:59:34 Okay, so we have worry. Fear anger.
10:59:46 Sadness. Okay, same thing. I know you're feeling sad. Grandma died.
10:59:57 We can think about all the nice things, Grandma. Said said to us all the nice things about grandma did to us.
11:00:06 What were those things that grandma did for us? Let's let's think about this and let's hold those things close to our heart.
11:00:15 So you get the picture. And the last.
11:00:21 It's just a little like a joy. You know, what we, what we as adults typically call dysrhythmia.
11:00:30 You're not depressed but you know you're just not up to part just like yourself today so you can even do it with some little You do it with little puppets.
11:00:42 You can do it with magic markers. You can do it with, you know, pieces of paper rings.
11:00:50 Just some of those things that, and so when your child come home from school and they're, you know, they're just You know, they're just not themselves.
11:01:01 Then went to school feeling pretty good but they're just not themselves. They can't go, it's snowy, they can't go out and play with their friends.
11:01:10 Let's just Let's just think about that for a second and you know, take 5 min to just decompress all of that and by adding in sub little fun things that that makes it a little bit more fun too.
11:01:37 Quite a few things. Could we, are there some questions things people would like to ask about, are they thinking about?
11:01:45 It doesn't make sense why would you do that or This is a crock. Anything, any, any thoughts or ideas that you have would certainly be wonderful.
11:01:59 Let her let her rip.
11:02:00 This is Stacey. And so I didn't see any questions in the chat. Throughout and I did ask a couple times.
11:02:11 I know somebody asked will the recording be available so I did mention that in the beginning this session is being recorded and will be available on our website.
11:02:18 Usually takes about 2 to 3 weeks. We do have the videos professionally captioned before we post them.
11:02:25 So I did put the link again and you if you're interested, there's about 12 other families for sessions that you can go back and watch.
11:02:36 Somebody said, Jen said this is wonderful. Thank you, Mary Ann. And I agree. This has been really interesting and wonderful.
11:02:44 Somebody else said this this training is very interesting. I think it's great. I have a 12 year old son with disabilities and I'm already like this is the second or third time I've gotten to.
11:02:56 See Barry and present but I've tried these techniques at bedtime. Especially his hands and his feet.
11:03:04 He's very receptive to letting me touch his hands and feet and Just getting him to learn how to monitor his breath and doing that box.
11:03:17 Wonderful.
11:03:13 Breathing has been really helpful for his sleep. So, I think it's wonderful and I appreciate it so much.
11:03:23 There's another thank you in the chat. If there's questions, please feel free to ask.
11:03:28 If you don't feel comfortable coming off of mute, you can type them and I'll read them for you.
11:03:33 I'm Marianne, if somebody wanted to get in touch with you to schedule some one on one sessions, how would they do that?
11:03:41 Probably the easiest is just to give me a call, (215) 805-4527.
11:03:50 Type it in the chat.
11:03:53 Can you repeat? 215805.
11:03:55 4 5 to 7.
11:03:57 Thank you.
11:03:59 Okay, and I'm not going to let you all go that fast because we started with a little meditation.
11:04:04 And we're going to end with a little meditation because you got to reenter and so do I.
11:04:11 And it's not going to be as calm as the last hour or so has been, right? So let's just kind of enter with a little easy breezy feeling.
11:04:20 So I'd like you to Maybe start with that nice box breath getting comfortable in your chair breathing in for 4.
11:04:30 Holding it for 4. Breathing out for 4.
11:04:37 Causing for 4.
11:04:41 And. This meditation is called the Pond of Love.
11:04:48 So imagine that you are sitting beside a private secluded pond. Nothing will disturb you.
11:04:59 Look around the pond.
11:05:02 Take in your surroundings. What season is it?
11:05:08 What colors do you see?
11:05:11 Do you notice any smells? Simply take it all in.
11:05:20 Now draw your attention to the pond.
11:05:24 You look at the pond you realize that it is not an ordinary pond of water. It's a pond filled with love.
11:05:35 Feel loves energy radiating from the pond.
11:05:41 Feel drawn toward the pond. See yourself coming closer to it.
11:05:48 The pond that is radiating love.
11:05:51 Look into the depths of the pond. It's full of love.
11:05:59 See a mist hovering above the pond. Notice the mist is made of love.
11:06:10 Breathe it in. It's fulfilling and sad. Each time you breathe in, feel the essence of love.
11:06:20 Surrounding and unfolding you. Calming and satisfying you.
11:06:29 Breathing in. Feel the love filtering in, entering your being. Smell it. Feel it.
11:06:39 Bring the love into your being.
11:06:44 You now notice a boat behind beside the point. Floating on the pond of love. Sweet and pure love.
11:06:55 See yourself approaching the boat. And floating on the pond of sweet and pure. Love. Rocking gently back and forth.
11:07:06 Being fully supported. Bye, love. Feel yourself reaching out toward the pond. The pond full of love.
11:07:18 Splash the love on you. Feel it soak into you. Billing you with love.
11:07:25 Allow it to enter the quiet center of your being. Deep within you. In your own special center.
11:07:35 Your innermost center radiates with love. Feel the love in your center growing. Expanding.
11:07:44 Throughout your inner body. Radiating from your center. Circulating through and through.
11:07:55 There may be an area of your life. Physical, mental. Emotional, spiritual. That could benefit from being bathed.
11:08:06 In love. Feel the love go to that area. Bathing you. Washing over you.
11:08:16 Becoming a part of you.
11:08:20 Feel the love.
11:08:26 If you wish. You may now send this loving feeling to other people.
11:08:34 To other places.
11:08:37 To other relationships.
11:08:44 Bring your attention. Back to sitting beside the pond. Feeling the love.
11:08:56 It's time to bring your attention back to the present.
11:09:01 Begin stretching. And wiggle. And whenever you are ready. Open your eyes.
11:09:12 I thank you very, very much for this wonderful opportunity. To be with you, Stacey, Denise.
11:09:19 Jamie, thank you ever so much for inviting me. And it's always a big kiss in your direction.
11:09:27 Thank you.
11:09:25 Thank you so much, Marianne. This was wonderful. What a what a great way to start the day and thank you everyone for being here.